Processed with VSCOcam with f2 presetOver the years I started collecting aprons. before our big move to Hawaii I got rid of maybe 1/3 of my collection, so now I only have thirty or so left. I hardly ever wear aprons, it’s one more thing I have to wash and my clothes only stay clean for the first hour I put them on anyway. Inevitably Eliza will come and hug my leg leaving a trail of snot, not that Maria or Enzo are much better. Not that I’m much better, I am pretty careless with my clothes.

Processed with VSCOcam with f2 presetI like the idea of my children growing up and finding a box of my pretty aprons and reminiscing about their childhood and how their mother cooked wonderful food for them and wore floral aprons (because memories are often better than what really happened). I romanticize my offsprings’ life. But, most likely if I save my aprons for my kids then they’ll end up with a box of aprons they never bought or cared about. I don’t want my kids to have to deal with my clutter, not now and definitely not later.

house2We have every intention of living in this house if not forever than for at least a very long time. It’s a functional house for a family of five. We fit comfortably sharing three bedrooms and two bathrooms, as long as we downsize the amount of stuff we have. Soon my kids will be older and will be buying their own stuff. I get anxious just thinking about the influx of things coming in and very little going out. Maybe if I show my kids that it is possible to live a clutter free life then they will adopt similar habits.

Less clutter p-l-e-a-s-e and more time doing things instead of wasting time trying to find things.

I recently read a post called Home Goals from The Inspired Room where she encouraged her readers to set some home gaols. Here are mine:

I want my home to feel: LIGHT! Light as in sunlight and light as in not heavy. I want there to be light and I think we can achieve this by getting rid of the excess and beautifying with functional objects.

The Room I Want To Focus on The Most This Year: I call it the common room, it’s the living, dining, and kitchen part of our house.

4 Home projects I’d Like to Work On

  1. Vertical garden in the living room
  2. Building an outdoor shower
  3. Building an outdoor pizza oven
  4. Decluttering

4 Areas I want to Organize or Declutter 

  1. The kitchen
  2. The girl’s room
  3. Hallway closets
  4. My room

A Bad Home Organization problem I am Going to Break this Year: Yelling at my kids  or speaking unkind to them when they don’t clean up. The only thing worse than a messy house is a clean house with very sad kids. It is possible to get my kids to clean up (I’ll post about that later) without being mean to them, it takes an insane amount of patience which I often lack.

New Traditions or Memories I Want to Make in Our Home: Host regular dinner parties at least twice a month.

How do I plan on achieving these goals? Slow and steady! I have taken the 12 months of decluttering challenge, and every day I make a bag of things we don’t want/need and am donating, selling, and throwing it away.

I’m starting with the kitchen. Wish me luck.

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  • Britta - I want to come be in your light, de-cluttered house and be at a dinner party with pizza cooked outdoors. I want to go to there.ReplyCancel

    • damarispalmer@gmail.com - Next time you are in Hawaii let’s make it happen!ReplyCancel

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Currently my favorite breakfast.

 

 

  • Metta Prieto - Yes! This is a bowl I grew up with. But we did lime juice over it after the honey – soooo ono! And a few raisins. Enjoy every piece of fresh tropical fruit you get.

    And the blog is gorgeous, by the way. xoxoReplyCancel

    • damarispalmer@gmail.com - I love the fresh lime juice idea, I’ll have to try it.ReplyCancel

  • Kimberly - I can identify with a lot in your post. I am a HUGE fan of de-cluttering and am well known for it in my family. If an item is not adding beauty or usefulness to my home, it goes.
    Additionally, I have a home wish list – items/features I consider necessary in my “dream house.” Among them are windows in every room, skylights in at least a few, a fireplace, a wrap-around porch if not simply a good amount of porch space, an open kitchen design for entertaining, a nook area for my daughters to cuddle up into and read a book, lots of yard space, and on and on…my list is a little long – but an outdoor shower is among those things! When talking about home features with other people, I never(!) hear a friend say, “One of our home improvement goals is to install an outdoor shower,” which, I think to myself, how can no one consider that not a thing?
    Also, regarding dinner parties: we’ve just moved to Virginia. We love our new place, but the population in the surrounding area isn’t as big. There are parts we like and parts we don’t, and overall we’re getting used to it. I’ve moved more than the average person during my lifetime and I’m used to being the “new kid.” I know that there are pros and cons to everywhere a person lives. But one of my favorite parts of living in Bethlehem, PA was not only the variety in food options nearby, the festivals, the history, our proximity to downtown fun while still having our own quiet neighborhood space, was our dinner parties with our friends. Every Sunday evening, to close out one week and kick off another, we gathered together around a table that everyone had a part in either by making, or buying, various parts of the dinner. Almost half the time we held it in our home, and the other half of the time was in another couple’s home (simply because they were the two largest homes owned by people in our core group). The adventure in food items and menus was endless – literally any dish, menu, cuisine, food – was an option. Our core group included a Spaniard, a couple from Sweden, an Italian, as well us those of us of mixed heritage who were simply born and raised in America. Anyone who was ready for good company and had a healthy appetite was welcome, so there was often a new “friend of a friend” with whom to chat through dinner. We’ve had musicians, our kids, our pets, traveling students, co-workers, visiting friends, and more drop by for dinner. There was always plenty of good wine and beer, and cigar-thirty with a good scotch after dinner on the porch (for whomever wanted to participate). We listened to the happenings of each others’ weeks, discussed cultures, languages, and travels, job problems and successes, current news, future plans, our kids…we supported each other, centered each other, sometimes argued good-naturedly – but always friendly. M
    ore than anything we were grateful for the time to come together and re-center ourselves before another week. It was a haven of friendship. If one of us had had a bad week and were somewhat quiet or wrestling with a problem, there were listening ears and encouraging words and a hug if you needed it. If one of us accomplished something big, we’d toast you and make you feel like a rockstar, as only good friends can. You didn’t have to be “turned on” to be welcome; it wasn’t exhausting to participate – you just had to arrive.ReplyCancel

  • Stella - Heck yeah bayb-ee keep them coming!ReplyCancel

Making dinner is a battle (1 of 1)-6I love feeding my family homemade meals I really honestly do. But, if I had a McDonalds or even better a Burger King by my house we would have had dinner there last night. Even better, if I had a Burger King and a nice park where I could take my kids we would have gone there yesterday. My kids are crazy inside a restaurant, no matter how casual it is. I live in a small town in Hawaii that is deprived of fast food and parks.

With parenting, I often feel like I am choosing the lesser of two evils. If I feed my kids quick processed food than they eat crap but we get to spend more time together. If I make a decent dinner than I basically have to give them access to screen time for however long it takes to make dinner. In summary, if my kids eat healthy we get less time together. Sometimes, the kids get home from school and we end up having a wonderful time at the beach, and then we come home and eat cereal for dinner. See what I’m talking about?!

A big chunk of my day is dedicated to my job so every minute I am not working I am trying to get quality time in with my kids. Cooking, cleaning, washing, bathing, and more cooking and more cleaning is less time that I have to play a game of uno, or read a book to Eliza, or play dolls with Maria. It’s a constant dance to try and juggle it all and go to bed at night feeling like you didn’t totally screw up.

We teach our kids that they need to be included. If we’re cleaning they should also be cleaning. If we are cooking they should be helping out. But more often than not the process of including your kids is even more work. I am scared that Eliza will get burned, it’s nerve wrecking to cook and have her pulling on my legs begging me to pick her up. Hence the screen time. Thank you Elmo and Frozen for keeping my baby safe.

But guess what? She’s not buying it anymore. She wants to see what I am doing. She wants to do what I am doing. Of course she does.

Making dinner is a battle (1 of 1)-3Yesterday I baked so I wasn’t worried about her little hands touching the stove. She came and picked up some garlic and started helping me. Her little busy uncoordinated hands pulled out one by one. She would get frustarted, need a little help, go back and watch a couple minutes of her show. and then run back and help some more. View full post »