I have a 5 year old daughter. Her name is Maria. She is creative and funny and full of emotions. Sometimes she whines, not because she is trying to be irritating but because she is asking for help and she knows that her high-pitched unhappy voice will grab my attention for better or for worse. One day, after a futile plea of “STOP WHINING” I looked at her and said “please use your confident voice, I can understand you so much better when you speak with confidence.” That day was the beginning of something new and wonderful.
I don’t just want Maria to stop whining because it is annoying for me to listen to. I want her to stop whining so that she can feel confident when she needs to ask or share something. I want her to know she is being listened to, and recognize that her desire is not always the most important thing that needs attention at that moment. There is no quick solution to get your kids to stop whining but there are simple steps you can take to help them speak and feel confident even when they are dissatisfied.