Every day, sometimes to their dismay, I make my kids spend 10 minutes of one on one time with their siblings.
I have this total mama bear fantasy that my kids will be used to spending one on one time with their siblings that even when they are grown and out of the house they will call each other on whatever new fancy device Apple creates and they’ll still want to connect with their brother or their sister.
I started doing “mama time” with my kids when Eliza was born. Enzo wanted desperately to play Monopoly and every day I would have to blow him off because I could never set aside a couple of hours to just play a game with him without needing to also take care of 3-year-old Maria and newborn Eliza. So instead I gave him 10 minutes and every day we would play for 10 minutes. I think it took us probably a month to finish that game but knowing that he would get my undivided attention every day dramatically changed his overall behavior.
So “mama time” was implemented. Now we also do “papa time” and “brother-sister time” and “sister-sister” time. It’s not perfect and there are days that we skip. But on the days that we do make time to connect the payoff shows. The kids fight less and are overall just nicer to each other.
Do you force your kids to spend one on one time with each other? What things do you do to connect with your kids? I always love new ideas.